How to Enjoy a Period of Change

how to enjoy change

We've all felt it. You become fascinated by a new idea and spend hours obsessively reading everything you can about it. You meet someone new and are blown away by them. You find a new job opportunity and refresh your email every fifteen seconds, hoping for an offer. Suddenly, the ground you walk on is… Continue reading How to Enjoy a Period of Change

Fear Setting: How to Do Great Big Things

My alarm beeped. I jolted awake as the early morning San Francisco sunlight cut through the fog and poured through the open blinds. I groggily pulled my bath towel snug around my shoulders in a futile attempt to guard against the cold of my heatless room. I rolled over, my head on the edge of… Continue reading Fear Setting: How to Do Great Big Things

Why Your Imagination Will Ruin Your Future (and How to Stop It)

Life in the imagination forest

Adolph Fischer was not a happy man. Fischer was a labor leader in the late 1800s and spent his short life in poverty. His primary claim to fame was being accused, based on perjured testimony, of inciting the Haymarket riots. He was nowhere near them. Fischer was sentenced to death by hanging due to this… Continue reading Why Your Imagination Will Ruin Your Future (and How to Stop It)

Playing Grand Theft Life

grand theft life in New York City

Let's say I offer you a chance to peer into a tiny box. In the box, there's a card. On the card, there's a number. The number is how many hours you have left to live. It would take a lot of courage to look at that number. But you're young and healthy, so you… Continue reading Playing Grand Theft Life

Our Shared Language Problem

language holding you back

I think we have a language problem. I hear it all the time. Someone's talking about starting a business, finding the perfect partner, or learning a technical skill. Then they say something like, "But that’s impossible.” Alas. Those things are genuinely hard to do. They take time. The path to success is rife with failure… Continue reading Our Shared Language Problem

How Likely Are You to Find a Life Partner?

life partner

Common sense and anecdotal evidence suggest finding a life partner is a crapshoot. Like craps, it's a game that few people win - a third of people never get married, and about 40% of married couples end up running for the exit at some point. Yes, some of these are second and third marriages, but… Continue reading How Likely Are You to Find a Life Partner?

Pruning the Possibility Tree: The Simplest Way to Make Better Decisions

pruning the possibility tree

I was an economics major in college, which means I heard the terms "rational consumer" and "opportunity cost" a lot. The former was pretty clearly a joke - a cursory glance reveals that few people behave rationally as defined by the whiteboard and dry erase marker crowd. If they did, sales of compressed carbon (diamonds)… Continue reading Pruning the Possibility Tree: The Simplest Way to Make Better Decisions

Minimize Your Urge to Maximize

how to make peace with yourself

A few months back, I listened to Pete Holmes interview Ryan Holiday on the You Made It Weird podcast. Holiday described his parents' visit to see him in Texas, during which they planned a day trip to a town called Clovis.  Holiday was incensed that his parents - who came from California to spend time… Continue reading Minimize Your Urge to Maximize